Path: utzoo!mnetor!tmsoft!dptcdc!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!neat.ai.toronto.edu!gara
From: gara@theory.utoronto.ca
Newsgroups: ont.singles
Subject: Re: `interesting' dates
Summary: yeah, but do *you* wanna talk graph theory til 2 am?
Keywords: date, interesting, compatability, common interests
Message-ID: <89Feb18.154757est.38074@neat.ai.toronto.edu>
Date: 18 Feb 89 20:47:55 GMT
Distribution: ont
Organization: Department of Computer Science, University of Toronto
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In article <3691@geaclib.UUCP> rae@geaclib.UUCP (Reid Ellis) writes:
>gara@theory.toronto.edu (Gara Pruesse) writes:
>|I used "interesting" in the sense of "would be fun to date"
>
>Ok, now we get to define "fun to date"..
>
>But seriously, doesn't this exclude a relatively large number of guys who
>are uncomfortable with the archtypical fun date? [dining, dancing] [but not
>movies, they're ok]
>

Sheesh!   What do you think, that women are all archetypal women who
want to go out on archetypal dates, but that men are a varied group
of individuals?

Some of you folks always seem to impose the narrowest possible interpretation
on my words.  

Women are as varied as men, and what they want to do for a date will
vary also.  

>Would you consider it to be fun to walk down Queen Street on a Friday
>afternoon hunting out all the book stores and comic shops to see what's new
>this week?  And then go see the current Cinesphere 70mm festival movie?
>[it's Top Gun :-)]
>
>Or talking about technology in general? [cars CPU's VCR's C++]  Are there
>females out there who really *like* to talk about these kinds of things in
>detail?  Like, could they stay up until 2am talking about these things?  Ok,
>that's a bit extreme :-) but you get the drift.
>
>Reid Ellis, geaclib!rae@geac.uucp, rae@geaclib.uucp [if you're lucky]

Well, I think there is a good point to be made about all this,
and that is that women have been socialized differently from men,
and as a result the distribution of the population of women over their
interests is different from that of men.  So women who want to talk
C++ til 3am *may* be rarer than men who want to do the same.

I guess for those men whose interests are very much in the
"masculin" end of the spectrum, it may be difficult to find 
women who share your interests.  Of course, it's not necessary to
date only people whose interests precisely coincide with yours.

Comments?

-gara