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Date: 8 Feb 90 22:33:00 GMT
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  I would like to think that the some of the same things that keep healthy
heterosexual couples together and healthy lesbian couples together, are
also the things that keep healthy gay male couples together.  Am I wrong?

  My partner and I just celebrated our 7th anniversary.  Some of the things
that keep us together are:
1.  We work at it.  Two people involved in any venture means compromise.
2.  We talk.  And when I know she needs to talk about something, but is
reluctant, I remind her that that's why I'm there.
3.  We keep in mind that there are good times and bad times, great times
and times when life in general is the pits.  This is a given and there is
no way around it.
4.  We're honest with each other, and we try to stay honest with ourselves.
As far as we're concerned, it's the only way.
5.  We still love each other very much.

  We also try to re-evaluate our goals and our dreams from time to time.
It can be uplifting or emotionally draining, but it keeps us in touch with
what we're aiming for as individuals and as a couple.

  OK, what do we do that is so different from what any other kind of
couples do?

Amy

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