Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!mailrus!umich!samsung!brutus.cs.uiuc.edu!psuvax1!psuvm!auvm!MAINE!CORCORAN From: CORCORAN@MAINE Newsgroups: bit.listserv.gaynet Subject: Re: couples Message-ID: Date: 11 Feb 90 22:49:27 GMT Sender: Gaynet Distribution List Reply-To: GAYNET@ATHENA.MIT.EDU Lines: 27 Approved: NETNEWS@AUVM Gateway Dan, I seemed to have missed your original posting, but did read Amy's. I replied directly to her to say, ditto. My lover and I have been coupled for over four years, and have gone through all sorts of phases, but I've found that we've reached a stage where we operate very much like Amy and her lover do. I can share my observations about how we handled our relationship and the effects that it had if anyone likes, but I don't think that relationships differ that much (at least at this level) between male/male and female/female couples. I do think that they are apt to be rather different than heterosexual situations if only because same-sex relationships have no social or legal sanction and they don't have the ready made formula (i.e. marriage) that heterosexuals may choose. Having watched men couple with men (and women with women) I'm struck by how much time is spent re-inventing the wheel. (Before you jump on be for this, I don't think that it's altogether bad, it's just that very few of the couples I see forming and breaking apart in six month periods seem to learn from the experience of others.) Cororan@Portland / Corcoran@Maine are: John Corcoran ============ Phil Dept./Core == == "And now, what will become of us U. So. Maine === === without any barbarians? Those people Portland, ME ==== ==== were a kind of solution." 04103 ===== ===== --C.P. Cavafy 207-780-4226 ============