Path: utzoo!utgpu!jarvis.csri.toronto.edu!torsqnt!tmsoft!robohack!sanwalk From: sanwalk@robohack.UUCP (A. Roy Sanwalka) Newsgroups: ont.singles Subject: Re: finding girls/boys, women/men, whatever.. Summary: dating services disenchantment Message-ID: <1990Feb27.032305.24363@robohack.UUCP> Date: 27 Feb 90 03:23:05 GMT References: <7988@yunexus.UUCP> Distribution: ont Organization: R. H. Lathwell Associates: Elegant Communications, Inc. Lines: 70 In article <7988@yunexus.UUCP> landolt@yunexus.UUCP (Paul Landolt) writes: > In article kim@watnow.waterloo.edu (T. Kim Nguyen) writes: > >...Thus, to really meet that One Special Person, you just have to go out > >and make sure you meet lots of people and give them all a chance to get to > >know you. > > This thought brings up an interesting point. That of Introduction and > Dating services. I specified both since I wanted to see if people saw > a difference in the two names. Although I see the obvious 'claimed' difference in the names, I have yet to hear about anyone's experiences at a "Introduction Service" that were not similar if not identical to those at a so called Dating Service. Honestly I think that the alternative name is just a ploy to dispell some of the myths and bad image portrayed by Dating Services (ie. desperate, lonely people looking only for marriage or sex). > ... > So, there are people to meet, but how to meet them. Intro services exist > IMHO to introduce people (hence the name) Not nessesarily a 'match > maker' service or a marraige broker. But, a service to put a person > in a situation where he/she can meet more people. Let's face it. Meeting > people in bars isn't all that successful. I agree. There are many places to meet a SO, and in my opinion anyways a bar is not one of them. I have yet to hear of a single successful relationship which began from complete strangers meeting in a bar. And besides, if you need a drink to relax enough to relate to other people, amybe you should be dating a bottle of Molson's! > ... > However, there seems to be a certain stigma attached to intro services. > People using them are desparate, only wanting marraige, (or sex), they > could be dangerous. On the other hand, I have come across articles > discussing intro services in Ontario, and that the clients are just > everyday people. > > what do people here think of Intro serverices as a way of meeting people. > > -- > J. Paul Landolt | The F-37 Stealth Cookie: > Computing & Communications Services | Today's Dream or Tomorrow's Nightmare? > York University - Toronto, Canadia | -------------------------------------- > InterNet: landolt@nexus.YorkU.CA | My opinions. All mine. So sue me. My opinion to date is that introduction/dating services don't work. Maybe this is just my prejudice clouding my judgement, but I have heard all the bad points about these services and besides their borchures I have yet to see or hear from living proof of their effectiveness. I am a little shy myself, and have problems with first time introductions with people, but once I get to talking with someone it's like we'd known each other for years. Still, I don't see either hanging out in bars or going to a dating service as the answer. Any other suggestions??? *********************************************************************** * A. Roy Sanwalka a.k.a. sanwalk@robohack * * sanwalk@ecf.toronto.edu * * #include mugc@ecf.toronto.edu * * `Undergraduate Electrical Engineer and Guru-in-training!' * *---------------------------------------------------------------------* * "People who think they know it all really annoy those of us who do" * *********************************************************************** Signature v1.0B - That's right, a BETA version!!! -- *********************************************************************** * A. Roy Sanwalka a.k.a. sanwalk@robohack * * sanwalk@ecf.toronto.edu *