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From: bevans@gauss.unm.edu (Mathemagician)
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Subject: Re: BOOK REVIEW: _Gender Blending_
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Date: 27 Feb 90 01:25:11 GMT
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In article <1990Feb8.162125.20758@Neon.Stanford.EDU>,
holstege@Neon.Stanford.EDU (Mary Holstege) writes:
> What is interesting to me is how often my husband is taken as female *when he
> is with me*.  What I think is going on is that he is somewhat shorter than
> the average man, but quite a bit shorter than me, and while he has plenty of
> muscles, his build (bones) is quite slight.  I think people see *me*,
recognize
> a female, and then apply the stereotype -- tall big man + short small
woman --
> have it fail, and address us as 'ladies'.

This has, on more than one occassion, happened to me and I, too, don't
fit the "feminine" stereotype except regarding my hair (I have [make that
"had"] it quite long in the back but quite short on the front/sides).
The first time it happened, I was wearing shorts which showed my rather
hairy legs (gawd, this is beginning to sound like a personal ad) and was
being faced by the person doing the misrecognizing.  Another time, a FRIEND
of mine mistook me for a woman when she saw me from behind.

> Do they talk in this book about this sort of effect?

I would be interested to know this, too.

--
Brian Evans             |"Momma told me to never kiss a girl on the first
bevans at gauss.unm.edu | date...But that's OK...I don't kiss girls."